Just because you once liked something doesn’t mean you’ve signed a lifetime contract with it. You can change your mind. Changing your mind is not, in and of itself, a reason to consider yourself unreliable.
The most dangerous prison isn’t the one other people lock you in. The most dangerous prison is the one you lock yourself in with the words: “I’ve always been this way.”
You weren’t. You were like that back then—with that knowledge, those wounds, those fears, and that version of yourself that was trying to survive, fit in, be accepted, and not stand out. Today you know more. You see more clearly. You want things differently. You have the right to stop defending the decisions of the person you once were, the one who lacked the awareness you have now.
You don’t have to stay loyal to the old version of yourself just because other people prefer the predictability. Growth often looks like inconsistency to those who are used to keeping you in your old box.
So be it.
You don’t have to defend the same choice forever just because others have grown accustomed to it. You owe it to yourself to grow. To change your mind. To change course. To admit when something is no longer yours.
Because the saddest thing isn’t changing.
The saddest thing is to stay the same because you do not want to disturb the image someone has created of you.
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