Today, we can see more clearly the consequences of a decision that we were not able to assess well before. Subsequent knowledge easily creates the impression that we should already have understood everything when we made the choice.
A fair assessment takes into account the information available at the time, but does not remove responsibility. Maybe we really overlooked something or could have asked. It is important to distinguish this omission from the requirement that we should have known what was revealed only later.
We don't have to declare every painful experience necessary or right. We can admit that we would act differently today, fix what is possible and save the new understanding for the next decision.
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