The desire to be appreciated by others can lead us to constantly emphasize successes and cover up insecurities. Such proof quickly becomes additional work, especially when we perceive someone else's remark as a threat.
Self-esteem can take a more peaceful form. We know what we can do, we admit what we don't know yet, and we don't have to belittle the other person to keep our place in the conversation. That leaves more room for learning.
We cannot demand that everyone respect us, nor are we responsible for everyone else's assessment. We can set limits on humiliation and choose behaviour we can stand behind. This is where a more stable relationship with one's own value begins.
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