A first impression can be pleasant, but it does not provide enough information about a relationship that is only beginning. It matters to see how someone handles agreements, disagreements, and another person's boundaries over time.
We should not interpret every awkward moment as concealed ill intent. It is more useful to ask, explain what bothers us, and observe whether the behaviour changes. This gives our assessment a basis beyond guesswork.
If the same harmful action keeps recurring, we can change our involvement in the relationship. A boundary does not require a final judgment about the whole person. It is enough to understand what we can accept and which agreement the other person is unwilling to respect.
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