A boundary is useful when we know what we are protecting with it. It could be time to rest, the way we want to be spoken to, or a commitment we're not ready to take on.
It is worth expressing it with a concrete agreement. What can we do, what can't we do and what will happen if the same request is repeated? Not everyone has to understand our reason to take it seriously.
But you should also examine our own actions. Are we protecting something important with a boundary or are we avoiding a conversation that is unpleasant but necessary? The answer helps us stay consistent without turning every difficulty into a reason to retreat.
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