We invest both work and expectation in the plan. When the result is absent, we lose something on both counts. A failed attempt does not become valuable just because we gave it a nice explanation afterwards.
Yet the actual situation remains in front of us: something is lost, something can be repaired, and part of the experience remains usable. Clearly distinguishing those things helps more than insisting that everything turned out exactly as it should.
Disappointment has its place. There is also a decision on what to do next. The earlier plan explains why we set out, but new circumstances require us to look at the direction again. Attachment to the expected result must not prevent us from seeing what is now in front of us.
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